SWINGER OR EXCHANGE PARTNER: SEXUAL THERAPY OR PATHOLOGY? Readers The swingers are small groups of people who have a set of socio-cultural affinities and economic, physical and aesthetic appearance in addition to their fantasies and social support needs of practicing attachment- exchange partners. It is conceived as a right, as an alternative to the sexual routine and as a solution to sexual boredom between partners.
If psychologists and psychiatrists say that people talk who have practiced swinger mode always have serious personality disorders such as sexual deviance, paranoia and loss of contact compared with reality. The actors in these alienating practices must go through a real pain to return to a moderately acceptable mental stability, which is not always, of course, is achieved. I refer to some elements (few, for they are many) involved in the pathological process that accompanies this form. IN LOVE
1 .- It is almost impossible in the dynamic exchange of partners at any given time two members of the group did not come to "love", arising in this way comparisons between a couple (the "formal" ja !) and the other. It is important to clarify that when I speak of "love" I'm not talking about true love because falling in love is based only on physical attraction, passion framed in a mutual sexual satisfaction.
The basic feature of these couples is that one or both "swingers" have been linked to the figure of a parent who did not give a good parental affection (even if they have never lived together or have done poorly or intermittently) and transferred feelings and expectations they once had with the father and / or mother to other people. Such subjects, for adults or successful they are, have not been able to overcome the pattern of infant relationship and hope to repeat in their emotional and sexual needs, acting in this way be part of a "swinger" to continue taking in which to project their demands. Needless
clarify that in a "chain swinger" falling in love is one of the weakest links on the breakup of the group and the apparent emotional balance promised for after the love affair between two or more members of the group, ensuing jealousy, doubt , mistrust, deceit, confrontations, separation, divorce and family breakdown. And also falling in love, what we are going to swallow their propaganda.
2 .- LOSS OF SENSE OF BELONGING
To better understand this problem we must go back to the early age of the child, which begins to know what part of it, as his body, legs, hands, fingers, etc.. When the baby moves, do not know if the world that moves or is it, over the months the child begins to realize what he is and what is outside. Thus, in its infancy, the child needs her space, her father, her mother, her toys, her room, etc.
In short, the child needs to know what it is and what is not his. If the child grows up without knowing what belongs and what does not, will develop serious personality problems: lack of identity, insecurity and an excessive desire for instant gratification and quick gratification. No wonder that members of "group swinger present a clinical picture of insecurity and lack of real identity, as though they had a good economic position in the family, usually their parents ignore them, thus lacking both a sense of belonging.
In adulthood the spouse is the person, besides yourself, that best represents our sense of identity, (my husband, my wife, my bf / gf, my spouse @. We must not forget that the self is constructed in touch with you with others in general, are "social animals").
among partners "swingers" often one spouse convinces the other to participate and even if he has a good sense of belonging, at the time to share your husband or wife will develop a vacuum of belonging being planted in her unconscious destructive feelings toward the other, because their sense of belonging has been seriously assaulted (but have agreed). That's why the vast majority of cases raise the question of whether it is worth staying married, continue working for common goals, etc., And secretly cherish the idea that a couple that dares to be shared is because it really loves. PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILE
SWINGER
1 .- HOSTILITY TOWARDS THE OPPOSITE SEX: usually these are people who have had a poor relationship with the opposite sex parent and basically can not feel love by the other sex, rather the feeling they have is hate camouflaged desire for domination and exploitation.
2 .- LOW TOLERANCE TO THE RESPONSIBILITIES: as work. Also the lack of willingness to accept parental responsibility can lead to experience new sexual experiences as a means of escape or destruction of that family commitment. 3 .-
ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY: alcohol, drugs, food, relationships, self-destructive addiction to any person, substance or practice.
Finally, it is very funny to find information on this issue and find that everything is compliments (propaganda). We are also very modern and we are justified, cágate parrot that this practice is as old as mankind. So is infanticide, war, rape, torture, exploitation ... would continue ad infinitum
the ancient list of things that are the most inhuman and alienating. Yuck manipulation of consciences! Today
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